The other night Mr. Canuck and I were discussing our unborn child, as we are wont to do, and he asked me what kind of person I would like our kid to be. I had to think about that one for a bit, because that's a big question, but the answer I came up with was fairly simple.
The one trait I would most like to instill in our children is simply awareness of the people around them, and awareness of how our actions affect everyone else. I believe that if we can manage to teach them this, then everything else - compassion, consideration, thoughtfulness, and just plain good manners - will fall into place fairly easily. I think that if we are conscious of the consequences of our actions, and aware that just about everything we do has an effect, no matter how small, on the people around us, then it becomes second nature to treat people the way we want to be treated. I think this quality is rather rare these days, for whatever reason, and it's incredibly important to me that my kids learn this lesson.
Now, how do I plan to teach them this? I am not telling you, NO SIREE, for two reasons. The first is that I have learned that childless people are not allowed to have any opinions on parenting. If you do have an opinion, and you dare to express it, then all the parents of the world will come down on you like a ton of bricks and inform you that you have no idea what you are talking about. The second reason is that I don't really know yet. I'm planning to just roll with it and take my opportunities as they come.
What quality do you most want your (existing or potential) children to have?